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Second Weddings
There were times where there was very strict etiquette that governed second weddings. That time is truly over, and this is your wedding. Go with what you really want, and feel comfortable with. If you had a rushed first wedding, if you did not have the wedding of your dreams then you can have it now. On the other hand you might was a small, intimate wedding with close family and friends.
Children and Second Weddings
If you have children or grandchildren review our article, Weddings & the Blended Family. Children can make a wedding more challenging. It is important that they understand they are loved and cherished.
What to Wear
There was a time when wearing white represented virtue, or being a virgin. However, this is not longer considered to be true. In today's world white is considered a symbol of joy, so there is not reason a second bride should not wear white. Another great option would be pastels or ivory.
It is important to consider where you are holding the wedding, and how formal it is going to be. An evening wedding in the church would fit with a formal long white or ivory gown. Where a simple afternoon wedding in a beautiful garden would be perfect for a simpler tea-length dress. Many December brides prefer to wear an elegant bridal suit. Consider these things:
- What time of day is the ceremony?
- Where will the ceremony take place?
- How many people are invited?
- Is the wedding formal, or intimate?
You would not wear a long, formal white gown with a train to a garden wedding, or a simply wedding in your home. On the other hand a suit or tea-length might not be the right thing for an after six wedding and formal sit down reception.
For a veil there are several options. If you are wearing a traditional wedding dress go ahead and wear a veil. The only thing what is not recommended is the veil covering the face, but a veil that hangs down the back or around your shoulders is fine. Another great option is a birdcage veil. These are very popular right now, and have a beautiful classic look. They are also wonderful for the receptions, as they are less cumbersome.
Enjoy yourself! Decide what type of wedding and reception you want. Then go for it. Don't let anyone tell you that it is not appropriate. This is your wedding, everyone you are inviting loves and cares for you, so have fun.
Bridal Shower?
Having a bridal shower for a second or third time bride may seem untraditional to some, but it is not a no no! Consider what the new couple will have to set-up their home. If they need the basics to set-up a home then go for it. Make up a list of what they need most, and have a 'traditional' shower.
However, they couple may be set, and not need any household gifts. If this is the case is a shower wrong? No, here are a few options:
First, one great option is a gift free shower. This is still a great opportunity for the bride, female family, and friends to get together to celebrate the upcoming wedding. The bridesmaids can still include the traditional games, fiancée Q/A, party favors, and refreshments.
Second, if the family and friends want to have, at least, a token gift for the bride consider putting together a recipe box. Each of the guests could add some of their favorite recipes to add to the box. I've been married for 31 years, and I still love a good recipe.
Third, have a 'theme' shower; something that fits the bride's personality and hobbies. These can be smaller intimated gifts aimed right at the bride. If they love to cook have a 'gourmet food' shower. For a bride that likes to settle down with a good book have a 'library' shower. A few other ideas are: gardening, camping, lingerie…
Wedding Invitations
It does not matter if this is wedding number one or three, there is no requirement or expectation to include the number on your invitation. This means that you can use the same wording as those used for first weddings. Shown below are a few examples of wording that can be used. Many people are also choosing to write their own invitation wording that better represents their personality.
Please visit Invitation Wording for some examples.